My list has changed a bit this year. As I get older, I realise what’s more important in life and it pretty much boils down to a healthy mind and healthy relationships. That’s really all that matters to me.
I love the New Year. It feels like I’m starting over with a fresh slate, but life goes by fast these days and it’s easy to forget the promises you made yourself on NYE. That’s why this year I want to make sure I stay on track with my goals, and I think you can do the same.
This is our year guys.
Photo a Day and Daily/Weekly Journaling
I thought it could be really interesting to see a series of 365 photos at the end of the year to see how things have changed. And to complement that, I thought it would be even more interesting to journal a bit when I take the photo to look back on.
This isn’t the most important 2019 goal for me, but thought it could be a rather interesting project for myself. I haven’t decided if I will do the daily or weekly journaling as it’s a lot to sign up to right now. And I have a habit of signing up to more than I can handle, so we’ll see how it goes.
I am interested to see how my face and expressions change as the year goes on and think it would be really amazing to look back on at the end of next year.
Get My Goal Body
Every year I say I will finally “lose the weight” and I never do. Last year was the closest I’ve come to shredding the pounds but then we got engaged and I decided to celebrate that for a few months by eating and drinking a lot.
However I have a wedding that I am in this year in November, and I will need to buy a wedding dress by the beginning of 2020 so this is my chance to finally get a body I can be proud of.
As I’ve gotten older, I’ve started to really feel the affects of eating bad foods. My skin looks older and has constant breakouts, my stomach is always bloated and I never feel 100%, my energy levels are so low it is actually sad, and many other things. Generally speaking, I don’t feel good about myself. My self-esteem is quite low at the moment and that actually affects my relationship with D.
All of that changes when I am working out and eating well. I am doing something good for myself and my body and therefore I feel good about myself and my body. After getting a taste of that in 2018, I realised I much prefer that version of myself so 2019 is going to be the year it all changes.
Eat More Plant Based Foods
I know people getting really tired of these fad diets and words like “paleo” and “plant based” probably make me sound a bit annoying, but those people really do have something going for themselves. I will never be completely paleo. I still like to eat meat and I will never stop loving cheese and bread. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. However, back before my holiday, I was eating a mostly plant based diet and it was the best I have ever felt. And my skin had never been better either.
I got to a point where I craved healthy foods because I knew how it made me feel and my body began to love certain foods. It’s also becoming a lot easier to make healthier choices, even when out and about as restaurants are catering more towards the health conscious people.
My goal for 2019 is to get to a place where I can eat intuitively. Intuitive eating is listening to what your body wants or needs and giving it that. It’s kind of like following a craving, however you need to train your body to crave the good stuff instead of the bad stuff. And there are many ways to enjoy your favourite “cheat meals” with a healthy kick. I’m hoping by the end of the year I can have this figured out a little more. And don’t you worry, I’ll keep you in the loop and share what I learn along the way on the blog.
As I’ve mentioned a thousand times, we need to start saving money for our wedding in October 2020 which will not be cheap. And we want to save some money for after the wedding as well as we’ll need to start a life together.
Neither of us are very good at saving money, which is really unfortunate. I was always hoping my partner could keep me in check but looks like it’ll have to be a group effort between the two of us.
From my side of things, I’ve decided that I won’t spend over £30 unless it is absolutely necessary, like getting groceries or something along those lines. If something is more expensive than that, I will need to sit on it for a day and decide if it’s worth it or if I can go a different route. This will not be easy for me at all, but it is something I really do need to do for our future.
Practice Regular Meditation
When I was being healthy in 2018, I started meditating to see if it would help with my stress and anger. And I was so shocked at how much it helped me. I meditated regularly for a few months, but eventually forgot about it and haven’t done much since.
For 2019, I want meditation to become part of my lifestyle, just like eating and drinking and working out will be. I think meditation can truly help if you learn to let it and I’m sure there will be times in 2019 where meditation will really pay off.
Becoming More Patient and Kind
Unfortunately, I really seem to struggle with these two. I have very little patience, especially if I’m in a little bit of a mood. Eventually, we’ll have kids and I really don’t want to lose my shit all the time. Children require a lot of patience, and you know what, so does a relationship. It’s definitely something I want to spend more time thinking about and working on throughout the year.
As far as being kind goes, I do find myself to be a very caring person with the people I am close to. I’ve always been a good listener and am always willing to help where I can, but when it comes to strangers, I am a lot less caring. I think it’s a defence mechanism as I’ve been hurt a lot by people I loved so I tend to push people I don’t know away. In 2019, I want to work on being a little less harsh and stop with the negative thoughts. It really does tend to poison me against others and makes me a lot less happy.
I actually had this same thing written down on my resolutions for 2018. I know I’ve improved a lot since 2017 in this department but I’m still not at the place I’d like to be. I learned a lot about myself in 2018 so I think it’ll be easier to accomplish this one this year.
Read More Books
Yeah I did terrible with this in 2018. I always say I want to read more books and I end up getting lost in the latest Netflix show and say I’m “too tired” to read. Well, I don’t want to keep making excuses for myself this year.
I’ve joined an online/London book club and plan to participate when and if I can. The book they are reading for December/January is called How to Stop Time by Matt Haig, and it’s actually a book that D bought me for Christmas last year that I never read. I’m already half way through it now as it’s actually a really interesting read.
Hopefully being part of the book club will give me more reason to read more often as I really miss it. We’ve got a lot of books in our bookcase that I haven’t read but have been meaning to so I’m going to try to not let myself come up with as many excuses this year.
Social Media Detox
I really love this one. I spend the majority of my time during the day on social media. I am constantly checking Instagram and Facebook. I scroll through Twitter and have been obsessing over Pinterest lately. Even when I’m out and about, I find myself scrolling through social media. It gets to be a problem.
I’ve decided that one Sunday a month, I will have a social media detox, maybe I’ll even turn off my phone. I’m not entirely sure what Sunday it will be but I will make sure that I do it once a month, depending on my schedule. If this sounds interesting, you should do it with me! We can all detox together and then talk about how lost we felt the next day. It’ll be tons of fun.
Appreciate My Life and Live in the Present
I have a way of sitting in a chair feeling like I don’t have enough and always wanting more. And as that is good in a lot of ways, it’s also extremely toxic. It gets to the point where it’s like I can’t be pleased. Nothing is ever perfect and I will never be happy because I’ll always want something more than what I have.
In 2019, I want to put an end to this kind of thinking. I want to continue reaching for the stars and having goals for myself, but I also need to learn to appreciate what I have right now, which is a damn good life.
We have a gorgeous flat, we have each other, we have amazing friends and family, we have steady jobs and income, we have our health, I have this blog, and so much more. Life isn’t bad. We just need a puppy.
And that, my friends, is it. I reckon this year will be extremely challenging for me as I have a lot on my plate and I will be tested a lot but I am determined to become the best version of myself and do the best I can every step of the way.
What are you resolutions for 2018? Share some with me below!